The Privilege of Aging: Embracing the Gifts of Growing Older

We often hear about the downsides of aging—aches, pains, and the inevitable march of time. As my dad used to say, “it beats the alternative.” But in my sixties, I've come to realize that aging brings with it a wealth of privileges, ones that often get overshadowed by the negative talk. While some privileges are a continuation of what I've experienced throughout my life—like education, housing, and family support—there are others that have only come with age. These privileges deserve recognition and celebration.

The Privilege of Health: A Treasure Worth Savoring

One of the most profound privileges of aging, for me, is my health. As I navigate my sixties, I am acutely aware that many of my peers are facing significant health challenges. Some need knee replacements, others have undergone life-saving surgeries, and many are managing chronic conditions like high blood pressure or arthritis. The signs of aging are visible, and I know that my good health is something to be deeply grateful for.

This awareness has only deepened my appreciation for the health I enjoy today. Last year, I walked a couple hundred miles on the Camino through Portugal and Spain. Just recently, I participated in Jazzercise classes, lifted weights, and took long walks on the beach. While I do take a few pills and supplements, I consider myself highly functional and incredibly fortunate to be so active. Health is a privilege that can change anytime, and I savor every healthy day.

The Privilege of Time: Reclaiming the Clock

Another privilege that has emerged with age is time—precious, unhurried time. When I was a single mom working full-time and raising two children with no family nearby, time was a luxury I simply didn't have. The little downtime I managed was spent recovering from one week and preparing for the next. Meal planning, journaling, or even a few moments of quiet reflection were out of the question.

Now, in my sixties, I have the privilege of time. My morning routine is a cherished ritual that includes savoring my coffee, journaling, reading, and sometimes meditating. I enjoy an afternoon nap or an evening walk with my husband. No one other than my dog Rudy needs my attention. This freedom allows me to use my time doing things I genuinely enjoy, a privilege I do not take for granted.

The Privilege of Flexibility: Living Life on My Terms

Flexibility is another privilege that comes with age. As I’ve grown older, I’ve crafted a life that allows me to do what I need to do when I want to do it. More often than not, I can rearrange my schedule to fit in a trip or visit family without the world collapsing around me, as it used to when I was younger.

This flexibility extends to the ability to say “no” without guilt. In my younger years, I often said “yes” when I didn’t mean it—whether to advance in my career, repay a favor, or simply to avoid being disliked. Now, I know who I am, and I’m comfortable setting boundaries. Saying “no” has become a privilege, allowing me to focus on what truly matters and do more of what I love.

The Privilege of Financial Stability: Freedom and Peace of Mind

Financial stability is yet another privilege of aging that I deeply appreciate. A lifetime of working, making thoughtful financial decisions, and having family support has positioned me well. My husband, who is nearing retirement after a career in government service, saved diligently, and together, we have created a stable financial foundation.

This stability grants us the privilege of choice—whether it’s traveling, pursuing hobbies, or supporting our children in ways that feel meaningful to us. Financial stability reduces stress and anxiety related to money, allowing us to enjoy a more relaxed and fulfilling lifestyle. It’s not just about wealth; it’s about the security and peace of mind that comes from a lifetime of effort and planning.

The Privilege of Growth: Continuing to Learn

Finally, one of the most rewarding privileges of aging is the opportunity to continue learning and growing. Although I’ve always been interested in learning—and have pursued many degrees and certificates—I didn’t always have the time to devote to it.

Now, I read and listen to books, take online classes, and research topics that intrigue me. And just like my morning coffee, I savor the times I can soak up ideas.

Conclusion: Celebrating the Privileges of Aging

With a wealth of life experiences behind me, I am well-positioned to embrace the challenges and opportunities that come with growing older. My health, time, flexibility, authenticity, and financial stability provide a strong foundation for continued growth and exploration.

I look forward to using these privileges to live a fulfilling and satisfying life as I age. Aging may come with its challenges, but it also brings an abundance of gifts—gifts that I am grateful for every day.

As we journey through the process of aging, it’s crucial to acknowledge and commemorate the advantages that come with it. Good health, free time, flexibility, financial stability, and the chance for ongoing personal development are just a few of the gifts that aging offers. By emphasizing these positives, we can change our perspective on aging and welcome this phase of life with appreciation and happiness.